Thanks for answering the question for me.
I was in Dumaguete and Bohol facilitating a seminar and being with my family.
There is a book, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, you can find it at any National Bookstore, you are right when you said that "love is all about action and language... showing the love to the person and telling them how precious and love they are," this is where the book is coming from but with a deeper understanding about yourself and others.  

If a marriage is facing emotional or other issues that are putting a strain on the marriage, it is important to look for outside help and advice. The person who has the problem, whatever that problem is, needs to come to a place and admit their need for help. Personal problems in marriage need to be faced and managed by both partners as a united team, there is no "me," "you," or "I," always us, and never ignore, deny or belittle the problems. Unless the personal problem is very severe, for example, a serious mental disorder, then as long as both sides of the relationship are committed to persevering in love and dealing with the problem, it should be possible to hold the marriage bond in place.

          When one party is unwilling to deal with the issue (or perhaps in the case of serious mental disorder), and the problem is causing unsustainable strain to the partnership, it may be justifiable to have a period of separation or even annulment (when life and self is in danger and at risk). This, of course, should never be taken lightly and every effort must be made to keep the marriage together.

[align=center]Lastly, do not forget to always pray for proper guidance and discernment from God.