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| nylrym |
 Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2006 12:11 am Post subject: Losing the Romance |
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mga dear parents...another story worth reading...it has been ages in my inbox and i want to share it with you.
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My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature,
and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.
Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to
admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before,
has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a
relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a
little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his
lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into
our
marriage has disheartened me about love. One day, I finally decided to
tell
him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked. "I am tired, there are no reasons for everything
in the world!" I answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted
cigarette at all times.
My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can't even
express his predicament, what else can I hope from him?
And finally he asked me:" What can I do to change your mind?" Somebody
said
it right, it's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have
started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : "Here is the question, if
you
can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let's say, I want
a
flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that
picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?"
He said :" I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by
listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with
his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table
near
the front door, that goes....
My dear,
"I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the
reasons further.."
This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.
"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and
you
cry in front of the screen, I have to saved my fingers so that I can help
to
restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to
rush
home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save
my
eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every
month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your
tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by
infantile
autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your
boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your
eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip
your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also
hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine
and
the beautiful sand... and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the
color of the glow on your young face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more
than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. "
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... and
as I conntinue on reading...
"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied,
please
open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread
and fresh milk...
I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly
with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....
Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I
have decided to leave the flower alone...
That's life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of
excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in
between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never
been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and
romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the
relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... and that's
our life... Love, not words win arguments...
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| wesh |
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very sweet...
i could have chosen to pick the flowers... even if it causes my death... but reading the story and finishing it and knowing the reason of the husband... i would have done the same thing... 
love doesnt show on flowers.. expensive dinners... nice clothing... but the time that you spent on your love ones... and how you double your effort to bring laughter to the family....
nice story... very very nice...
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nice???  whats nice about the story??? its a very very sad story. bweset na asawa. bobo na lalaki. hay naku, bahala na kayo mag-isip bat ko nasabi to! 
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hehehe....look at the positive side bro.. hehhee... its a nice story..
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nice??? whats nice about the story??? its a very very sad story. bweset na asawa. bobo na lalaki. hay naku, bahala na kayo mag-isip bat ko nasabi to!
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Hmm... medyo slow ata ako ngayong mga araw na ito ah? PM mo nga sa akin yung naiisip mo RJ. hehhehehehe
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hehehe pede ako din...
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| malot |
| Posted: Wed Oct 29, 2008 4:22 am Post subject: Re: Losing the Romance |
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 m in the same situation, but i don't think i have the guts to ask my husband the same Q...
have a happy marriage!
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m in the same situation, but i don't think i have the guts to ask my husband the same Q...
have a happy marriage!
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naku I hope you lose that feeling mommy malot.
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kakabasa ko lang ulit nung story.. hmm it came to mind kung baket nabweset si bro arjay noon.. hehehe... sya yung lalake sa story..
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nice??? whats nice about the story??? its a very very sad story. bweset na asawa. bobo na lalaki. hay naku, bahala na kayo mag-isip bat ko nasabi to!
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| wesh |
| Posted: Wed Nov 12, 2008 10:15 am Post subject: Re: Losing the Romance |
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it is very important you let your partner knows how you feel.. talk to him.. maybe he can find ways...
i've had a situation before, muntik na akong hiwalayan ni esmi because i have more time for my friends than sa family ko.. we've talked... cried.. and stayed focus...
usap kayo.. and pray.. stay close to God...
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m in the same situation, but i don't think i have the guts to ask my husband the same Q...
have a happy marriage!
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| berna |
| Posted: Tue Aug 11, 2009 8:56 am Post subject: Re: Losing the Romance |
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I envy people who've had happy marriage because i just filed .
you remind me of my mom! though she's mid 50's, she's very sensitive. the sweetest part is whenever my dad came home after an out-of-town trip, she would always insist to spend time together in the shower or dinner date! And whenever my dad forgot his promises, my mom would throw tantrums like a teenager, imagine that!
You know Nilrym, being too sensitive won't help rather it will cause disagreements. But sometimes, it's quite sweet that couples tolerate each others sensitivity because they dont want to ruin the relationship. there are bad and good points of it!
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| mamatabs |
| Posted: Fri Jun 04, 2010 2:24 am Post subject: Re: Losing the Romance |
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i have nothing much work this morning, morning habit is to open this site read.. and shared . I stayed for long reading and this old thread "Losing romance" napatigil ...emote... emote...sa pagbasa. ke aga aga napaluha ako, para akong nagbasa ng telenovela pocket book ...how sweet , the most is happy ending.
mABUHAY AT NAKAMTAN ANG TUNAY AT WAGAS NA PAGMAMAHAL...
it really happens.. kanya kanyang paraan nga lang .... tired malapit na din akong magretired pero ng nabasa ko 'to medyo napa oops ...extend muna ang retirement ...... hahahaha joke lang ..... hay buhay parang life good morning to all
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| alinggui |
| Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 1:03 am Post subject: Re: Losing the Romance |
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[align=center]  My dear friends there are 5 love languages
Many times, we are accused or we accuse our partner of being insensitive or dense but the truth is, we might be speaking different love languages. Do check them out.
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| wesh |
| Posted: Thu Jun 10, 2010 12:36 am Post subject: Re: Losing the Romance |
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hmm please share the 5 love languages... for me kase, love is all about action and language... showing the love to the person and telling them how precious and love they are.. hehhe..
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| mamatabs |
| Posted: Thu Jun 10, 2010 8:25 am Post subject: Re: Losing the Romance |
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5 love languages:
1. words of affirmation - saying i love you, kung tipid sa salita pde na love notes
2. quality time - spending time together
3. gift giving - wag kalimutan ang spl event in ur life like anniv, bdays, monthsary etc.
4. acts of service - pde na paglalaba tuwing sabado hehehe. d ba ang sarap pakinggan Hon ,let me do that for you...or d kaya tipong breakfast in bed , pagtitimpla ng kape
5. physical touch - hmm hindi ung iniisip nyo
ung bang pag pagod punasan ang likod, holding hands, pagtatapik sa balikat na may paglalambing, hugs and kisses.
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